Data aktualizacji: 26 April 2024
Publish date: 5 July 2023
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Justyna had always been fortunate. She was the top student in school, graduated from a renowned university with honors, knew foreign languages, won awards and accolades in numerous competitions. Even during her studies, she landed an internship in an international corporation. Thanks to this, her career development was easier and faster than most of her peers. She managed to achieve all of this without much family support.
From a young age, her grandmother raised her, doing everything she, but wasn’t able to keep up with Justyna’s aspirations. Despite her successes, one thing was bothering Justyna. Even during elementary school, when all her classmates were getting their first periods, she showed no signs of menstruation. She began to worry about her health seriously during high school. That’s when she first consulted a doctor.
She was 19 years old, and her period hadn’t occurred. A gynecological examination and ultrasound revealed the absence of ovaries and a too small uterus. The diagnosis sounded serious, but she was too young to comprehend all its implications. At that time, she still knew nothing about in vitro fertilization with a donor egg.
After some time, she met Paweł, who was her internship supervisor. She was 21, he was 30. The older and more mature colleague completely captivated her. From the very beginning, she knew their relationship was something serious. When they started discussing family matters and a shared future, she mustered the courage to have a difficult conversation with Paweł.
She told him about her health problems and fears that she might not be able to become a mother. Paweł’s reaction only solidified her belief that he was the man of her life. Instead of worrying, he immediately began to consider their options. Right after their wedding, they decided to visit a specialized infertility clinic.
Consultations and tests brought forth significant information. With Paweł’s support and the kindness of the clinic staff, Justyna was able to cope with her diagnosis. It turned out that she didn’t have her own eggs, and the only chance of having a child was through in vitro fertilization using a donor egg. Restless thoughts filled Justyna’s mind—this wasn’t how she had imagined her future with Paweł.
She also didn’t feel ready for the struggle, pain, and stress. Upon returning home, she talked to her husband for a long time. When the emotions subsided, they decided to try in vitro fertilization with a donor egg. After a few days of waiting, a donor with matching phenotypic characteristics was found. Fate smiled upon them.
The first embryo transfer was planned shortly after Christmas. This wasn’t an easy time for Justyna. She constantly wondered if she could handle the whole procedure, if she’d have the strength to cope with failure if it didn’t work out. Day by day, doubts grew larger… Eventually, she decided to withdraw and give up. She called the clinic and said she was resigning from the treatment.
Paweł was surprised. It was hard for him to understand his wife’s decision. He talked about the effort they had put into preparation, about their shared dreams, his dilemmas, and how he dealt with them. He emphasized that he would accept any decision Justyna made, but asked her to reconsider. Initially, she didn’t want to listen to him, but over time, her motivation grew.
She trusted her husband and reached out to the clinic again. Another transfer was scheduled for April. They decided that, no matter what, they wouldn’t give up and would keep fighting.
To their surprise, test results and medical verifications indicated pregnancy. They succeeded on the first attempt! The pregnancy went smoothly, and Justyna hardly remembers the childbirth—it felt like a moment. She still thanks Paweł for not letting her give up back then. Justyna regained her old self-assurance, and fate smiled upon her again—through the eyes of little Oskar. She was happier than she had ever expected to be…
